what makes a wedding memorable?
October 17, 2005 - 22:31
What's the thing you remember the most about weddings you have attended?
I kept thinking of these recently. to provide myself an idea of how to plan for the wedding. and it just strike me - it wasn't the grand ballroom or the nice church or how expensive the food was, what mattered most was the smile of the couple on that very special day. How much they enjoyed that day and how very much in love they were.
and so, it doesn't matter if it was the most expensive wedding or the simplest garden wedding - it was how much love was in the air!
pple, do tell me what you tink is important about weddings when you meet me, i would like to know. haha.
but guess i answered my own question, in the midst of planning for our lovely day and cracking my brain over money etc, i realised that what matters most is how much we enjoyed the day and how meaningful it was to us.
a wedding planner told me that the wedding should suit our style, i looked at both of us and realised that a traditional night banquet is just not our style! we will like a bikini beach party for us instead! haha. or sth like that.
so i solved my own dilemmna and answered why i didn't felt impressed with even fullerton ballroom. because i am just not into the grand ballroom style.
my aim of the wedding is for everyone to have FUN! that's so important. i think a garden dinner is so nice or a seaside one.
will cater a hotel to the beach instead! heehee. that's more us.
anyway today was on MC. spent the day admiring diamond ring, oops, sorry into the mood of diamond again. haha. and went for a really lovely dinner treat @ Jack's place with darling. had lobster and fish and snails (yucks) and steak.
the soup and icecream just bloated me up that i can't sleep!
and happy that i am indeed losing weight @ attachment. but i still have 8 lessons to clear in 10 days! for my exercise class -that's impossible!
Wedding expenses breakdown!
October 16, 2005 - 19:41
For those who don't know much now about wedding expenses, let me enlighten you on why dyl and me and sweating every time we book something.
it is EXPENSIVE business everyone. Be prepared for the shock:
Engagement ring (For me from him): Somewhere near $5000- 10,000 (which means he's broke already just buying one thing)
Wedding bands: $1,400
Church wedding: $10,000
Wedding shots: $2000
Video: $1000
Banquet: $25,000
Gown: $1000
House downpayment: $25,000
Furnitures: $12,000
Renovation: $30,000
Okay, how scary is it?? VERY! I don't even dare to tally, so we shall live in lala land for now and see how it goes.
Can money please fall from the sky?
Well, at least we got lovely friends and relatives' angbao to count on!!! =)
banquet tasting!
October 16, 2005 - 13:03
Went to our first Wedding show and bandquet tasting @ Hilton International yesterday!
had so much fun! wow and i love some of the gown, but i will still prefer Vera Wong one's just like my lecturer.. haha. but she earns so much while me?? haha
ok anyway, there was so many couples at the place, you can be amazed at how many people are tying the knot. i guess we were the youngest there.. the rest were old folks. haha. in their late 20s or 30s lor. and there was this poor couple sittin opp us at the long dining table and they looked so sad. like no happiness shining through at all! although the woman was wearing a big diamond ring, but she was so unhappy. sigh. i really wonder why some people get married for?
the food? pretty good. the shark fin was good but i will not opt for it to protect the shark. Serious. i despise hotel that still offer shark fins.
the servie? ok la. but the place didn't look appealing to me. i don't like the cinderalla kind. i like more carefree like the beach feel type of place. so that didn't fit in well.
and the next stop? we are going food tasting and wedding show at the Tunk Lok Group soon!
This is getting so exciting!
and watch out for us on the Female mag, cos they may be featuring our photo.. hahaha.
my experience with kids
October 11, 2005 - 21:32
i am officially declaring that i am not a kids person. after spending 16 hours with little kids. it is getting way too much.
smiling all the time and talking in high voices can really make me tired.
dyl will have to postpone his babymaking plans liao!
haha. o for those who dun know what i am talking abt, i am now attached to a private kids therapy centre. for the rich people one. hee..
all the parents are either expats or local doctors/lawyers etc.
then again, think - how come the richer they get, they more problem they seem to have?
life is fair.
disappointed day..lost my condo.
October 09, 2005 - 20:49
well, i am basically numbed and tramautized by the whole event which took place today.
initially, we were going PRIVATE. eyed a condo and decided to invest, together with parents' help of course.
went to condo showflat, chose a small unit about $600 thousand bucks. then went with parent again and chose a BIGGER one costing $800 thousand bucks.nearly a million you know!
paid the BOOKING FEE by dylan. which is like hmm, 35 thousand bucks CASH?
then met banker by darn bank.got the shocking news, so what if you got the $$$? you can't get the loan!!!!
ARGH!
and gone was our condo dream that was just one step away, well, for 5 hours today, at least dyl and me own that unit.
sigh. disappointment, all because therapist earn little?
not my fault mah!!!!
i want back my condo! we were supposed to go private!
bored by prac
October 06, 2005 - 17:26
i am obsessed with our wedding planning i can't study for prac.
and prac sucks, big time! i rather be an event manager.
To knock down or not?
October 06, 2005 - 14:20
I waa reading home and decor and suddenly this scene came to mind:
pretence 1st trip to the interior designer pl:
Dyl: why do we need an interior designer? you are good, you can do it yourself, or ourselves!
Reg: for the 100th times, it is because HE is better and HE can do it better.
Dyl: why do you need to spend 7k knocking down walls? you can buy a plasma TV for that you know?
Reg: Baby, I know plasma TV's great but I need a walk in wardrobe, and to get that, you gotta knock down walls!
Dyl: Hmm, can I ask again, why do you need a wardrobe that you can walk into? it doesn't make sense you know?
Reg: cos I WANT IT. simple. everyone has it. Ok?
Dyl: we don't have that much clothes.
Reg: I WILL BUY that much clothes. (with your credit card somemore)
Dyl: ok. then where does the baby sleep?
Reg:????????!!!!!!!
Scene 2: At the interior designer and talking about style.
Reg: I want ZEN concept. I love sitting on the floor.
Dyl: Sitting on the floor makes my butt hurts. i need a sofa.
Reg (Stare at him): If you don't get ZEN concept, i make sure your butt really hurts.
Ok, end of pretence scenario.
that's the conclusion i got from our recent housing discussion! hahahahaha. had a good laugh with felicia over this yesterday.
anyway, drew up the bridesmaid list. gotta get the invitation cards for them done. well, there's a lot of bridesmaid involved. haha. i hope all will accept coz i will want them to be there! and bridesmaid will relieve some wedding planning burden too =)
ok, and wedding planning and marriage is REALLY not about 2 person. from what i am counting, it is about 6 persons. Him, me, his mum, his sis, my mum, my dad. Sigh!
getting house earlier!
October 05, 2005 - 23:52
guess what. the boy who has prac exam tomolo went to sleep cos i am such an uncompliant pt and i was so sick and tired of being moved around.
hopefully all things go well for him tomorrow. really concerned cos i know he's more of a slow worker and takes time to think before actually doing something. so well, really cross my fingers.
i think i have been very slack and this rubbed off him too.
anyway, a trip to the property agent revealed lovely results. we may be holding our wedding next yr after all! still, the concern is our guests' angbaos, especially classmates who have just started working, cos afterall, these angbaos are the ones which help us cover the whole cost of the wedding. hope everyone understands!
think we gave fernvale court a miss because it will only be due in 2011 and that's 5 yrs away. live where in the meantime? dun wana squeeze with family liao. one house so many heads, very stressful one.
so we will take a resale flat and take the rebate! hahaha.
=) gonna contact friend for printing of cards soon. better start FAST.
gorging day
October 03, 2005 - 21:10
we were practically gorging ourselves today!
ordered mac home delivery for breakfast, in bed! hahaha.
then went to lido for movie and ate more there. luckily managed to stop dyl from eating genkhis khan. will save it for the final day of end of exam!
very tired now. going to sleep.
Fernvale - our flat?
September 30, 2005 - 20:53
i hate to say this but i am turning into a yello-faced woman!
i cook, i turn recipe, i wash the clothes, i mop the floor, i sweep, i wash the dishes.
and today,i went to hougang mall and bought us a floor fan! and carried it home. woohoo!
ok, not to say that dyl hasn't been doing anyting, he trys hard to wash the dish most of the time and recently embarked on doing laundry with me. i need to train him MORE.
luckily i didn't or rather ain't going to marry a MCP. keke. else i will indeed be a wang nian po.
anyway the to HDB today was exciting but at the same time, business-like. discovered that there are so much calculations to do etc. so much money matters. sigh. like dyl said, this is where the stress and undesirable part of the whole affair of getting married.
Fernvale is nice. i loved the 3 rm apt coz i can have a studio apt, which is what i always wanted! with my walk-in wardrobe. a must-have!
but the amt of people applying is so low, we don't think it actually has the chance to kick off lor. but we are still seriously considering.and even if it kick off, we may get allocated a low queue no.! haha. the whole process is all about LUCK.
i was pretty tickled today that a school mate from next class din know who i am going to be married to! haha. so we aren't that well-known after all! well, when the cards start distributing, everyone will know.
so now, a peek at fernvale -
even if we don't get it, will always remember it as the first flat we attempted for!
Overjoyed that HDB released the Sengkang flats today!
September 28, 2005 - 20:18
i never knew we will reach here.. so fast!
ENQUIRY ON SALES FINANCIAL PLAN
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Total balance savings in CPF Ordinary Account for all applicants (round down to nearest hundredth dollar) $1000
Payments Required for Purchase of HDB Flat
Purchase Price of Flat $94000
Add 0% premium on purchase price (if any) $0
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Total purchase price of flat plus premium $94000
At time of Signing Agreement for Lease
10% Downpayment $9400
Stamp fees $ 942.0
Conveyancing fees $ 72.45
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Total fees $1014.45
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Total amount payable $10414.45
Deduction from CPF Ordinary Accounts $1000.0
Cash top up $9414.45
At time of Collecting Keys
Balance 90% of purchase price $84600
Add Fees payable
Lease in-escrow stamp/regn fees
Mortgage stamp fees
Mortgage in-escrow stamp/regn fees
Survey fees
$ 42.3
$ 342.0
$ 48.3
$ 223.1
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Total fees $655.7
Less Total CPF balance in all applicants' Ordinary Account
After deducting downpayment & stamp fees (round down to nearest dollar)
$0
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Amount Payable (round down to nearest dollar) $85255
Mortgage Loan for Purchase of HDB Flat
Age of the youngest applicant 21 years
Maximum repayment period 30 years
65 minus age of youngest applicant or 30 years, whichever is shorter
Maximum loan that HDB can grant under Credit Assessment $199800
Maximum loan eligible $84600
Mortgage loan required (round down to nearest hundredth dollar) $84600
Cash top-up (if any) (round down to nearest dollar) $655
MONTHLY MORTGAGE LOAN INSTALLMENT
At 2.6% for repayment period of 30 years $339
i am eyeing for a 3 room so that we can have a cosy little nest! make it into a studio apartment =)
back here again
September 27, 2005 - 20:35
i always want to be married by 25. and i will. that's happy news!
among my biomech crap, i was thinking hard today when will baby fits in? somemore see jiahui's new nephew just makes my biological clock tick. haha.
but i will want to savour private moments between us 2 for as least a yr. then we can consider la. mummy been bugging us to give her a grandchild recently. haha. dyl was so amused.
he kept asking me, "how come your mom has this grandmother instinct so fast?"
pre-test day
September 27, 2005 - 20:25
just sent mr lim to the bus stop after a really heavy meal. and i bought wheetables!
haha. and i am still struggling with biomech, it's not bad but i am just so sian. still, i am happy that we do not have morning paper! it makes a whole world of different =)
anyway, we had 2 good naughty days. hahaha.studying at starbucks the other day, dyl tried to eat durian!and got advised by the manager. kekeke. he was so embarrassed!
i will be Mrs Lim!
September 26, 2005 - 23:46
when i was younger, i used to fascinate about which "Mrs" will i be.
will i be a mrs tan, lee, cheong, teo etc.
i did hope that i won't be a mrs tan because there are so many out there. haha.
now that i know who i will be, it feels weird. in fact, it suddenly struck me, while readin jiahui's blog that, i will be Mrs Lim!
sounds like my ex-vice principal! haha. well, i will be Lim-Phang Y.T. that's weird. it's like given a new name.
=)
It's all about communications, baby.
September 25, 2005 - 14:15
i never understand what it means by not being able to communicate, or difficulty in communicating or dificulty in saying some things.
i don't understand why people are actually paiseh of complaining, when service they paid for aren't up to standard. i myself had complained 4 out of 8 times i ate at the western food store in our school food junction and received a new plate of delicious food, with much apologies. if fries are spongy, they ought to replace it. if meat aren't chewable, they need to cook me a new piece. right? customer's rights!
anyway, i have read countless books about how men aren't good at communication.but that doesn't mean they can get away with it, with the attitude that: "well, i am not born to communicate."
my dad is one good example of a failure at communication. and now, i think my husband-to-be is pretty good, but he needs much encouragement from me i think. he was telling me about how he only knows how to communicate love message with 3 words: "I love you."
and i was saying,"that's not enough!!!"
i guess i am just a natural magnet to want to hear things. actions are nice, but need to complement with words too right? well, i always fall at people who can speak flowery language. wahhaha.
ok, we got lots to do to get the wedding going in end 2006 or early 2007. actually, i don't know how we can do it, but we will conquer it!
So jiao you!
Nikki's birthday party! in uniform!
September 25, 2005 - 00:48
just came back from nikki's birthday party. I am sure she enjoyed herself thoroughly! And well, the navel ring did look nice.. but the pain is unimaginable. =)
well, we did went in uniform and chris and bf looked so cute. haha. eve and bf can't get away as sec students anymore la, looked mature now. me and jiahui simply looked Jc-like. haha. just slimmer, for both of us!
Four of us! Well, we got a bit bored and started entertaining ourselves with mahjong for like 4 rounds. haha. afterall, the overwhelming cresent girls was dominating the whole picture! can understand that the birthday girl naturally is more thrilled to see them as it must have been a long time. so we keep ourselved entertained! by ourselves!
This is with the birthday girl! anyway, these are polaroid, which in our self-entertainment, we took like 12 of these! hahaha. oops, hope she doesn't know how we wasted the film =p
Yes, we do have an attitude problem today. hahaha.
anyway, i think i am really starting to feel stressed about the wed exam coz i haven't studied!!!!
of eyesbags and love handles.
September 23, 2005 - 23:04
i am bored. i have been home for an hour after tuition and all i have been interested in is to surf through others' blog.
good thing is , my little girl got the highest for the 2 subjects i tutor! that's a GREAT sense of achievement after bearing with the degenerated grade for a long time. she failed her maths and chinese i think. but that's not my area of concern. so as far as our tuition is concern, we are doing great!
anyway, I think i need more sleep. my panda eyes are getting worse and dyl has resorted to calling my his little panda for days and weeks. initially it was funny now, it's irritating! argh!
i must get rid of it and my eye bags before i even think of taking wedding shots. that's ugly. and i don't want digitally enhanced shots. all must be on film and natural!
and i gotta lose another 5 kg. that means 1 yr time = abt 0.5 kg per month. i can do it!
i need to do it.
Post second anniversary pics!
September 22, 2005 - 23:11
realised that for our second anniversary dinner, I didn't put up photos of us together! of course must have la! so here we go.
Indoor = no insects.
Outdoor = got insects and squirrels! yeeks!
I think this waterfall is great. and there were a couple having their wedding day shot there. but poor them. only got one photographer with no assistant. or is it how it is meant to be...?
hmm.. i think i shall give nature a miss in future. I am just not there you know.
Happy Birthday to Geri!
September 21, 2005 - 22:48
To Geraldine
Happy 21st!
we had a great dinner! yum.
but i realised that late night took a toil on the eyes and skin! i got worsen panda eyes now. seriously. =(
see:
i need sleep.
Our Second Yr Anniversary!
September 20, 2005 - 19:30
HAPPY SECOND ANNIVERSARY! To US.
Today woke up late but managed to look ok, hopefully good, when I reached school. Spent half the time peeking at where is the gift??? Haha. He finally gave it to me before class ends. and of course, with so many people around, I can only smile and appear stern. hahaha.
We lunch at Halia@ Botanics Garden! It was fine dining, or rather lunching, in a lush greenery and there was little customers yet. Like we booked the place. Yeah!
Felt so good just sitting there. Sat in the outdoors initially then moved into the aircon zone for dessert. Food was not bad, like some sort of weird fusion. But I think I wouldn't love to eat it everyday! Haha.
It is indeed a lovely place for an outdoor wedding with an indoor wet weather options.but it only houses 50 people indoor at most.
Sure crease my chatting and show some photos instead!
The little food in a big place =expensive. Haha.
Perfectly sunny and romantic, in a different way. Instead of the candle light dinner, we got sunlight lunch! I loved the place!
Yes, I was in a Garden. There were trees, bushes and a few squirrel running all around. =)
And yes! I can't stand nature. I whined to death at Fort canning the last time Dylan brought me there. And this time, There was a little spider on my back when we were walking to the Ginger Garden, where the restaraunt was!
Want to know what's inside? use your imagination. =p O ya, it is INDEED what I spotted the little shy man trying to buy. And yes, he complained that the sales girls thought that he was a gay or something till he explained that it was for his girlfriend!
Ok this is darling Dylan taking a little rest after we ended the lunch and strolled through Botanics Garden IN MY HEELS. And it RAINED! Hahaha. So we sought shelter here.
So I look forward to the 3rd year ahead!